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Thursday, December 9, 2010

'I just wanna talk…I’ve no BAD intentions!’

assalamualaikum!

ayien dapat dari Facebook.bacalah sebagai pedoman dalam menjalankan hubungan sesama manusia.ape ape tak faham boleh rujuk kamus yer.bacalah sebagai tanda penghargaan kepada diri sendiri dan agama Allah ini.

assalaamu alaikum sisters please read this as its important I make duaa to Allah swt he saves us all from shytaan and fitan of this world Ameen


(This letter and some of the excerpts are taken from www.islam-qa.com)


“I am a young woman from a very well-known family. All my life I have been religiously committed and of good character, as all will attest, but for some reason I got to know a young man. I wanted to help him because he had suffered the calamity of his father’s death, and he is responsible for his siblings and his mother, but he went down the path of keeping company with bad people. I advised (which was not even a face to face communication!) him and I felt it was my duty to stand beside him and advise him sincerely. Eventually he returned to his studies and gave up those bad friends, and he changed completely. His mother asked him the reason, and he told her. She spoke to me and thanked me for being patient with her son.


One day he came for a visit to see me, and I did not know why I did not hesitate. I went to see him, and I felt as if he was my brother. We spent some time together and what happened happened, unfortunately. Now he wants to come and propose marriage to me, but it is impossible. He is three years younger than me, and he is not of the same nationality as me. Now I am pregnant and I want Allaah to conceal my sin and I want to repent. I know that I have done wrong, and you will criticize me severely, but I want to repent and I want a solution.”


Ø Perhaps this letter can be a lesson to those who claim that a relationship between a man and a woman can be “innocent”.


Ø And it can be a lesson to those who claim that such relationships are ‘Islamically’ acceptable if they are for the purpose of giving advice, especially religious advice!


Ø And to those who want to “water down” the religion to allow relationships between men and women in the name of modernity.


Ø And to those who claim that woman are able to control their desires and emotions and similar justifications.


Ø It is a lesson for those who are heedless of the laws of Allah and pay no attention to the warning of our Rabb, against following in the footsteps of the shaytaan,


Ø It is a lesson to those who continue to take gender relations lightly until they find themselves in deep trouble.


No doubt, this girl must have been careful to protect her chastity initially. But somewhere along the lines, she fell into shaytaan’s trap and slowly but surely became careless in her dealings with this young man.


And she went ahead and spoke with him and advised him, then she agreed to receive him in her house. Next she agreed to be alone with him, then the shaytaan made attractive to her the idea that he was like her brother (sounds familiar?)


And then what, then what happened?


Did their conversation stay limited to ‘religion’? They could not have been talking about religion while committing adultery!


Did she continue to give him religious advice that day? She could not have been advising him about Islam while committing adultery with him!


Did she continue to think of him as a brother? She couldn’t have been considering him like a brother while committing adultery with him!


She committed adultery in the same meeting and in her own house, with one whom the shaytaan made her think was like her brother!


Which was the first step of the shaytaan?


It was ‘merely’ speaking to this non-mahram man, then the other steps of the shaytaan came one after another until she committed this most abhorrent of sins. All the relationships start with just one conversation. That is why we can see the wisdom in the words of Allaah, may He be exalted (interpretation of the meaning):


“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin), and an evil way (that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)” [al-Isra’ 17:32]


Notice how in they ayah, Allah (swt) did not only forbid adultery itself, rather He forbade coming near to it. Anything that leads to this heinous crime has been forbidden. And so the aim here is to forbid even the smallest action that leads to it.


Dear Muslims, we live in a society where gender relations are considered the reason to live this life. We live where talking to opposite gender and having boy/girl friends is a norm of life. At school and at work, many of us start talking to the opposite gender for a homework or a project or even in the name of religion to give ‘dawah’, and that is when the situation starts becoming comfortable and we start getting ‘friendly’. How many times in the name of ‘dawah’ people have flirted a little?!


Nowadays there are emails, chat rooms, IMs and these are even more dangerous because shaytaan deceives with justifications like, ‘its not being physically alone’, or ‘you can’t even see each other’ etc. But internet has become the leading way of flirting, dating, relationships and even affairs of married couples!


What happened to this sister above is a deterrent for all of us. Just imagine when shaytaan can deceive a person in his/her ‘religious’ conversation, how dangerous it must be for any other type of conversation. Don’t be deceived that this can only happen to young, unmarried people.

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